Humans have a marvellous capacity for self-deception. Reality will eventually expose our delusions. Often with the painful realisation that we have squandered time, energy and opportunities that can never be recovered.
While failure can be a great teacher, wisdom and common sense make better travelling companions. But where to find wisdom?
If you have someone with the strength to nurture, encourage and confront you, you are loved indeed. To reach our full potential we need voices that won’t shy from telling us hard truths.
Habits become character. Every choice we make shapes us. Here are some habits that lead to success.
If hard work is a key to success, laziness is a recipe for failure. Laziness shuts doors. Most people aren’t honest enough to tell you to your face, they’ll just exclude you, give the opportunity or job to someone else. Why? Because lazy people are a drain on resources, they haven’t grasped the big picture. They are living in a delusion. Laziness can be a habit that is hard to shake. Learn to hate it in yourself.
Maybe you don’t think you’re ‘lazy’, but are you happy with mediocrity? If you’re happy with giving a mediocre amount of effort, you learn to be mediocre. Mediocrity is a way of life. Don’t get conformable with it. No one who achieved anything worthwhile was satisfied with mediocrity.
Get fit, stay fit
Fit people feel better, look better, can work harder and live longer. What’s not to like about that?
Fitness is a habit and a discipline. Embrace it. Treasure your health and fitness. Be a couch potato now and you will suffer later in life. Fitness is not just about building a beautiful body or breaking new records, it’s about investing in your future health and reaching your full potential now. You don’t know what that is worth until you start losing it.
Learn how to Eat
You are what you eat. Don’ be a slave to food. Learn the art of eating well. Slow food is often the best food. Fresh, local, seasonal home-made and genuine. Don’t be a pawn in a game of corporate greed. Good food is not about self-gratification, it is about friendship and connection. People will judge your character by how you eat.
Be interested in other people
Egocentrism is a phase of human development. It also lies at the core of human failing. Getting past oneself to discover a genuine interest in others is a journey some people never make. Most are shipwrecked on an island of self-interest. Cultivate the habit of being genuinely interested in other people, not for anything they can do for you, but because that is how you would like the world to be.
Believe in something bigger than yourself
We all need to be part of something bigger than ourselves. What is your mission?
We live in a world of wonder. It yields treasures to the curious. Explore. Learn something new everyday. Cultivate awareness. Ask how things work. Do you know why the sky is blue? Do you care? You should.
Value your friends
Genuine friendship is one of the most precious gifts in life. The friends you grow up with know you the best. You’ve experienced life with them in a way that no one else can. They are the ones you can meet them 20 years later, laugh and pick up old conversations as if it was only yesterday.
Make wise use of your time
Time is a limited resource. Do you have ‘free’ time in your life? Use it wisely, you won’t get it back. If you’re young and still in your formative years, know this: now is when you acquire new skills with greatest ease. What you learn will stay with you for the rest of your life. Think, feel, and make wise choices.
Character isn’t something you were born with and can’t change, like your fingerprints. It’s something you weren’t born with and must take responsibility for forming.
– Jim Rohn